Comments on: my breaking point http://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/ O the places we're going! Mon, 21 May 2012 20:11:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: on triggers and the continuum of better | O My Family – This new mom's bloghttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-2/#comment-18463 on triggers and the continuum of better | O My Family – This new mom's blog Thu, 20 Jan 2011 04:06:46 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-18463 [...] let alone deal with it in an appropriate way a year ago. A year ago I kicked a hole in our wall and ran from our house in my slippers (in the snow).I can’t pretend to understand how much of last night was impacted by pregnancy [...] [...] let alone deal with it in an appropriate way a year ago. A year ago I kicked a hole in our wall and ran from our house in my slippers (in the snow).I can’t pretend to understand how much of last night was impacted by pregnancy [...]

]]> By: unfortunately, I stopped trying too hard in high school. | O My Family – This new mom's bloghttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-2/#comment-15397 unfortunately, I stopped trying too hard in high school. | O My Family – This new mom's blog Wed, 24 Nov 2010 18:44:56 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-15397 [...] [...] [...] [...]

]]> By: on having another | O My Family – This new mom's bloghttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-14384 on having another | O My Family – This new mom's blog Wed, 03 Nov 2010 17:29:32 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-14384 [...] I cannot wrap my head around what it will look like to be the mom of two under two. Me, the one who ran crying into the night wearing her house slippers because she couldn’t take it [...] [...] I cannot wrap my head around what it will look like to be the mom of two under two. Me, the one who ran crying into the night wearing her house slippers because she couldn’t take it [...]

]]> By: family meeting | O My Family – This new mom's bloghttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-3482 family meeting | O My Family – This new mom's blog Tue, 02 Mar 2010 19:00:29 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-3482 [...] with you, and with you. I blog because you might need to know that that lady on the interwebs freaks out and leaves her house in the middle of the night sometimes too. THAT is why I blog and no button anywhere on this page or [...] [...] with you, and with you. I blog because you might need to know that that lady on the interwebs freaks out and leaves her house in the middle of the night sometimes too. THAT is why I blog and no button anywhere on this page or [...]

]]> By: Heather Cookhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-2698 Heather Cook Sun, 31 Jan 2010 05:22:28 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-2698 Oh yes, we have allll been here! Oh yes, we have allll been here!

]]> By: jpshawhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-2530 jpshaw Sun, 24 Jan 2010 12:55:35 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-2530 Wow! I read everyone's comments. It's my first time here. I'm putting you on my blog because I do not think you realize (though hopefully) reading all this wonderful comments by others you will the strength and bravery it took to write what you did. As mothers they never tell us how hard it will be. How scared we will feel. How alone at times. How that even though we know the babes need us there are times we are drained, have nothing left to give, feel the guilt like a knife and must must... spread it somewhere so we can move on. I think by reading your posts here you are a great mom! You are sharing and giving and honest and your child will realize this quality in you even if you don't see it yourself. Thank you for posting your feelings. God Bless! Wow! I read everyone’s comments. It’s my first time here. I’m putting you on my blog because I do not think you realize (though hopefully) reading all this wonderful comments by others you will the strength and bravery it took to write what you did.

As mothers they never tell us how hard it will be. How scared we will feel. How alone at times. How that even though we know the babes need us there are times we are drained, have nothing left to give, feel the guilt like a knife and must must… spread it somewhere so we can move on.

I think by reading your posts here you are a great mom! You are sharing and giving and honest and your child will realize this quality in you even if you don’t see it yourself.

Thank you for posting your feelings. God Bless!

]]> By: Miriamhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-2524 Miriam Fri, 22 Jan 2010 10:28:26 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-2524 It is so evident from everything you write that your child is totally and utterly surrounded by love, and he will have so much inner security from that. You are a mum (and a great one at that from the sounds of it all), and you are also a wife, a daughter, a friend... a YOU! And sometimes, to be the best you that you can be, it's important to take time out to recharge yourself and invest in all the other things which make up your wonderful and complex identity. You will be better for it, and even more able to then give your darling son everything he needs. It's not selfish and there's nothing to forgive yourself for; you did the right thing for all of you. It's so important to take time so that you have all the resources you need to meet the needs of those people who love you, and you love. No guilt! If there's such a thing as 'normality', then believe me, you're totally normal! It is so evident from everything you write that your child is totally and utterly surrounded by love, and he will have so much inner security from that.

You are a mum (and a great one at that from the sounds of it all), and you are also a wife, a daughter, a friend… a YOU! And sometimes, to be the best you that you can be, it’s important to take time out to recharge yourself and invest in all the other things which make up your wonderful and complex identity. You will be better for it, and even more able to then give your darling son everything he needs.

It’s not selfish and there’s nothing to forgive yourself for; you did the right thing for all of you. It’s so important to take time so that you have all the resources you need to meet the needs of those people who love you, and you love. No guilt!

If there’s such a thing as ‘normality’, then believe me, you’re totally normal!

]]> By: lea Joneshttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-2523 lea Jones Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:31:31 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-2523 WOW, good post. i did just that when my 3 months old screamed and screamed and screamed, and i didn't even know if i could love her. Husband was gone on a 3 week trip, so i took my little girl, put her in the car seat, drove to my mom's house, dumped the baby on her and ran to my little girl room upstairs and cried and cried. I am so glad you shared i thought i was the only one who dealt with, and thinking about these moments still make me feel guilty. love L~ WOW, good post. i did just that when my 3 months old screamed and screamed and screamed, and i didn’t even know if i could love her. Husband was gone on a 3 week trip, so i took my little girl, put her in the car seat, drove to my mom’s house, dumped the baby on her and ran to my little girl room upstairs and cried and cried.
I am so glad you shared i thought i was the only one who dealt with, and thinking about these moments still make me feel guilty.

love

L~

]]> By: Katherine D.http://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-2520 Katherine D. Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:38:02 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-2520 I found you via the TopMommyBlogs site while I was voting for someone else, and your description there (met at 18, married at 21, kid at 23) is exactly me. Glad to know I'm not the only one... :) My baby boy is 4 months old, and I have days exactly like the one you described in this post. I feel so bad for feeling that way that I make myself deal with it until my hubby forces me to leave and take some time for myself. I'm still working on the whole "that doesn't make me a bad mommy" part... Thank you for sharing. I found you via the TopMommyBlogs site while I was voting for someone else, and your description there (met at 18, married at 21, kid at 23) is exactly me. Glad to know I’m not the only one… :)

My baby boy is 4 months old, and I have days exactly like the one you described in this post. I feel so bad for feeling that way that I make myself deal with it until my hubby forces me to leave and take some time for myself. I’m still working on the whole “that doesn’t make me a bad mommy” part… Thank you for sharing.

]]> By: maggie, dammithttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/01/my-breaking-point/comment-page-1/#comment-2517 maggie, dammit Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:02:33 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5247#comment-2517 SO normal. This is so normal. You are normal. And you are GOOD. Thank you for your honesty. SO normal. This is so normal. You are normal.

And you are GOOD.

Thank you for your honesty.

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