Comments on: in which I make a private matter public http://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/ O the places we're going! Mon, 21 May 2012 20:11:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: if I’m really being honest with myself | O My Family – This new mom's bloghttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-7787 if I’m really being honest with myself | O My Family – This new mom's blog Thu, 08 Jul 2010 11:58:34 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-7787 [...] feels like we came to a decision on what was once a daunting thing to consider but then it turned out we were wrong to think it was our decision at [...] [...] feels like we came to a decision on what was once a daunting thing to consider but then it turned out we were wrong to think it was our decision at [...]

]]> By: Jacquelynhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3590 Jacquelyn Sat, 06 Mar 2010 07:37:24 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3590 There are pros and cons to close by 2ish years. There are pros and cons to 4ish years. In my (humble) opinion, 2ish is harder at first, but definitely doable. 4ish is easier at first but maybe they wont be as close growing up since one will be graduating high school while the other is just beginning their high school career. Sibling dynamics was a big deal for me. Big decisions. Have faith that God's perfect timing will bless your family. There are pros and cons to close by 2ish years. There are pros and cons to 4ish years. In my (humble) opinion, 2ish is harder at first, but definitely doable. 4ish is easier at first but maybe they wont be as close growing up since one will be graduating high school while the other is just beginning their high school career. Sibling dynamics was a big deal for me. Big decisions. Have faith that God’s perfect timing will bless your family.

]]> By: Stephiehttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3395 Stephie Fri, 26 Feb 2010 19:49:34 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3395 (This is Ali Neibling friend...by the way ) :) I just could pass by this particular entry without saying something...lol Being that our little guys are weeks apart, and JJ and I would like to space our next one around two years apart (a little over...a little under) we have this EXACT conversation ALL THE TIME as well. It just makes me laugh and sigh a sigh of relief that we are not crazy for going through all the possible senarios too. Man, you and I could have one long hashing out of this topic over the phone sometime! :) I don't know about you...but when I think about getting as big as I was at the end of pregnancy, all over again, starting this summerish....I want to reconsider this close spacing senario. lol Good luck with the decision. (This is Ali Neibling friend…by the way ) :)
I just could pass by this particular entry without saying something…lol
Being that our little guys are weeks apart, and JJ and I would like to space our next one around two years apart (a little over…a little under) we have this EXACT conversation ALL THE TIME as well. It just makes me laugh and sigh a sigh of relief that we are not crazy for going through all the possible senarios too. Man, you and I could have one long hashing out of this topic over the phone sometime! :) I don’t know about you…but when I think about getting as big as I was at the end of pregnancy, all over again, starting this summerish….I want to reconsider this close spacing senario. lol Good luck with the decision.

]]> By: nichttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3292 nic Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:18:08 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3292 we have four children, all spaced two years apart (soon to be five children as we're in the process of adopting). sounds like we planned it, right? except we totally didn't. are we happy with this spacing? undeniably. but i also see happy families with siblings spaced closer or much further apart. which is all just a really long way of saying that i agree with the roughly five hundred commenters before me who said you pretty much can't go wrong. :) we have four children, all spaced two years apart (soon to be five children as we’re in the process of adopting). sounds like we planned it, right? except we totally didn’t.

are we happy with this spacing? undeniably. but i also see happy families with siblings spaced closer or much further apart.

which is all just a really long way of saying that i agree with the roughly five hundred commenters before me who said you pretty much can’t go wrong.

:)

]]> By: Allison the Roommatehttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3246 Allison the Roommate Mon, 22 Feb 2010 23:13:50 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3246 Wow this has a lot of comments! I say you put it up to a general vote. Maybe a primary election to start things rolling? Wow this has a lot of comments! I say you put it up to a general vote. Maybe a primary election to start things rolling?

]]> By: Twenty Little Toeshttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3231 Twenty Little Toes Mon, 22 Feb 2010 17:03:07 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3231 Going back to the question about how much one can plan - Personally I always thought I would need a couple of years for "myself" before we have the second baby. You know for things to get back to "normal" in other words, body and boobs back to orignal size, no more diet restriction/freedom because of nursing, being able to wear my pre pregnancy clothes. Also, I wanted to enjoy the first baby's toddlerhood before another new born drops into my lap. Guess what! I had twnis, so much for planning for space. But, I love it and wouldn't have it any other way. Going back to the question about how much one can plan –
Personally I always thought I would need a couple of years for “myself” before we have the second baby. You know for things to get back to “normal” in other words, body and boobs back to orignal size, no more diet restriction/freedom because of nursing, being able to wear my pre pregnancy clothes.
Also, I wanted to enjoy the first baby’s toddlerhood before another new born drops into my lap. Guess what! I had twnis, so much for planning for space.
But, I love it and wouldn’t have it any other way.

]]> By: Jennhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3219 Jenn Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:07:30 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3219 Um, there are 64 comments on this post....not 5 as I had originally thought. Just thought you'd like to know. (Whoa.) Um, there are 64 comments on this post….not 5 as I had originally thought. Just thought you’d like to know. (Whoa.)

]]> By: Jennhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3218 Jenn Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:01:02 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3218 Based on the home environment you are providing, I would guess your children will be close regardless. :) I have a brother 3 years younger and one 7 years younger. My middle brother still calls me his best friend, and my youngest bro and I used to take road trips and go to concerts...just the two of us. I think your private matter is certainly a personal preference that simply cannot go wrong whatever you choose. Happy Planning! :) ( I am fully aware that this is only one aspect of the million you provided, but I think it's the only one I am somewhat remotely qualified to comment on.) Based on the home environment you are providing, I would guess your children will be close regardless. :) I have a brother 3 years younger and one 7 years younger. My middle brother still calls me his best friend, and my youngest bro and I used to take road trips and go to concerts…just the two of us. I think your private matter is certainly a personal preference that simply cannot go wrong whatever you choose. Happy Planning! :) ( I am fully aware that this is only one aspect of the million you provided, but I think it’s the only one I am somewhat remotely qualified to comment on.)

]]> By: Erinhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3182 Erin Sat, 20 Feb 2010 21:37:11 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3182 We have a 15 month old and i am 17 weeks pregnant. We wanted to have them close in age, it maybe hard at first but we think it will be worth it. :-) We have a 15 month old and i am 17 weeks pregnant. We wanted to have them close in age, it maybe hard at first but we think it will be worth it. :-)

]]> By: Sarahhttp://omyfamilyblog.com/2010/02/in-which-i-make-a-private-matter-public/comment-page-2/#comment-3180 Sarah Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:22:15 +0000 http://omyfamilyblog.com/?p=5740#comment-3180 I don't think you should assume that children who are closer in age will be closer emotionally. For example, one of my best friends is a middle child, who spends the majority of her time with an older brother (5 years older) but much less with her little sister (18 months younger). Personalities matter a lot more than spacing, if you ask me. I don’t think you should assume that children who are closer in age will be closer emotionally.
For example, one of my best friends is a middle child, who spends the majority of her time with an older brother (5 years older) but much less with her little sister (18 months younger).

Personalities matter a lot more than spacing, if you ask me.

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